Tuesday, July 7, 2009

The Love of my life is 50 today!




We used to watch the old Cosby show and laugh that the children would make fun of dad saying what is older than dad, dirt is older than dad. Here we are! Living this out.The children making all kinds of snide remarks about our aging. Trying to find the common ground between us and them. Trying to maintain the us with them constantly barraging us with conflicts. Negotiating through the mines of 8 explosive personalities is no easy task these days.
But today we celebrate Ben! 50 years and hasn't aged a bit. The girls say that he has spoiled them for any other man. He is so sympathetic to them and considerate that they can't possibly find someone like that. So they say, when they are happy. They write men off in a heartbeat. He's insensitive, He's inconsiderate. All this because their father has shown them the mercy of God throughout their lives. They argue lots and lots, but at the end of the day when their father sets down the standard, they know that he has prayed about it and cares about them and has gone his absolute limit to accomodate them. He really is a great father.
I don't think I knew that when I met him. I just knew that I didn't want anybody who was quick tempered. His temper has sped up, over the years but he remains the patient and slow to anger fellow I met on the train over 400 months ago.

Kenny Roger's song through the years always makes me cry because I heard it the very first day that we were married and I tried to imagine reminiscing about years with this man and it was a blank sheet of paper. Now when I go back to that day in my mind I have to turn so many sheets of full paper of memories, it is amazing. Hanging on to eachother and to God. Going daily into the prayer closet for healing and forgiveness and strength to stand oneanother and stand with oneanother is so exciting. Not easy, exciting. Not smooth sailing, exciting.


"I can't imagine when you weren't there, when I didn't care for anyone but you,
I "declare" we've been through everything there is; can't imagine anything we've missed, but through the years it seems to me I need you more and more. ...Through the years, whenever things went wrong, together we were strong, I know that I belong right here with you, through the years..."
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Title- The Studious One!

Title- The Studious One!
artwork by Elyse

Of biscuits and syrup

Of biscuits and syrup
tasty treats

Happy Saturday!

Happy Saturday!
a day at the Raptor Center.

Widdle Emmie in outer space school

Emmie jumped on the bus and off it flew out into the atmosphere. There was a set of clouds with turbulence right above the house and it took a few minutes for my Emmie to buckle her seatbelt. They hit the bump hard and it knocked my Emmie out of her seat and she bumped her head. The video camera came on and the monitor looked through and stated, Ms. Emmie, where are you? You are not in your seat. Where are you? I am alright I fell because I hadn’t buckled correctly. Well jump up Emmie we have a long way to go and you have to be buckled there is entirely too much turbulence in the stratosphere for you to unbuckle now. As soon as we are through this weather system there will be straight sailing but right now you must buckle. Emmie scrambled into the seat with intensity and purpose now. She watched every cloud pass her window and her nose was pressed to the window trying to see the top of the house as it drifted slowly out of sight. Soon they were not only out of sight of the house, the sun came out brightly and just as quickly they were putting on the atmospherical breathing apparatus and the outerspherical lights. The ABA and the OL. These precautions were to make them appear to be satellites to the radar as they were out in the ionosphere. Emmie knew all about this now. She had gone to the orientation and had a good breakfast and it took them 20 minutes for her to get out past the atmospherical pull and to feel the zero gravity. It would be 15 minutes before the gravity simulators would take effect, a glitch in the system which was being worked on. Until then, they enjoyed the couple of minutes of floatation, while being connected to the seats by belt. The first thing they saw everyday was the strataflotsam. The items which had been dumped into the atmosphere by earlier generations. What would their generation do about this ecological waste area that remained floating above their heads? This was a question for the generations. For now it was the area that they had to guide through on the way to school.

Midnight at the OASIS

Midnight at the OASIS
Sunset in Huntersville

My little Emmie

ran to the bus on the first day of the last year of school. 2 buns on the side of her head. She kissed me and ran at dawn to the bus. She was starting the adventure of a lifetime. I would never see that little girl again, she was going to woman school!

My Father and I 1989

My Father and I 1989

to the tune of Parsley, Sage, Rosemary and Thyme

A VISIT TO PAPA











Are you going to Mary Immaculate?

Apricots, Chocolate Cherries and Pie,



Remember me to the one who lived there,



He once was a true love of mine,



Tell him to buy me an acre of land,



Apricots, Chocolate Cherries and Pie,



Between the muddy Hudson in Jamaica Bay,



Then, He’ll be a true love of mine,

Tell him to sow in it seeds of pure cream,



Apricots, Chocolate Cherries and Pie,



And build Ice cream mountains and buildings of whipped cream,

Then, He’ll be a true love of mine,



Tell him to reap them with sickles of M&M’s,



Apricots, Chocolate Cherries and Pie,



And chew bubble gum and eat till we’re done,



Then, He’ll be a true love of mine.



Tell him to run it off down the motor parkway,



Apricots, Chocolate Cherries and Pie,



After your done 50 pushups



and jog down the West Side Highway,



Then he’ll be a true love of mine…

(Don’t wait for me today dad, The kids are sick again, My tummy’s bulging again, My heart is aching again, And now there’s no love there…)





He once was, a true love of mine….So, Girls, I do beg you don't miss your Daddy,Apricots, Chocolate cherries and Pie,You have one short chance to see him on this side, Go visit him and let your light shine.